Untold Feelings of a Woman

Woman – A wonderful creation of God! Most people say this!!

A Mother is often treated as a Goddess and people praise her. Sisters are called lovable, adorable Angels. Most Men would agree this. Their love for their moms and sisters are unexplainable. They do not indulge in finding reasons to criticize them, put them down, pull their legs or embarrass them. In fact, most men pamper Moms by not even pointing them when they are wrong.

If you say, your mom prepared you to go to school, doesn’t your wife prepare you to go to office? May not be giving you bath, but preparing breakfast and lunch. If you say, your mom sacrificed her time for you teaching you to do your homework, don’t you know your wife sacrifices her time balancing your kids, home and office? If you say your brothers and sisters loved you, don’t you know your wife loves you? If you say, your friends speak to you frankly, share their shortcomings with you and you are the ones who could convince them, don’t you know that’s what your lady wants from you?

Whenever women compare their experiences of their past before wedding and after wedding, in terms of the love they got, the pampered moments, etc., husbands often remark, “Five fingers are not the same”. Would you mind telling the same to your mom? Whenever any of your wife’s family member disrespects you, would she stand by it, seeing it?? Never, would an ideal wife do that. But vice versa happens most of the time. But Men call it “Adjustment” or “balancing”.

Most Men remark and comment on the cooking style of their wives. In fact, most Ads say “Sambar – Just the way mom does!!”. Of course, you are used to the way your mom cooks. Similarly she is used to the way her mom cooks. Her style is different from your mom’s style. But still people remark, “Mom’s sambar is the best”. Your wife would have put in the effort to try to prepare the way you like, but this word hurts her.

Men misunderstand that “Being an ideal man” is just balancing between his blood family and his Knot family. But that’s not meant by being an ideal man. An ideal man is he who understands what is right and what is wrong. If your mom is wrong, point it out. If your wife is wrong, point it out. This doesn’t require to indulge in fights. But just a casual talk would help, trying to understand what is right.

Most Men keep mum, which increases the ego between the two females in their lives. Mom thinks, he simply shuts his mouth to support his darling wife, he is hen pecked. Wife assumes, he simply shuts his mouth and sides his mom and doesn’t care for her. This in turn, turns out to be a COLD war between the two and Men lose peace. Instead, why not talk out openly? Neither Mom is always right nor wife is always right!! After all they are humans and do mistakes.

In the previous generation, about 20% of the moms worked. Maybe, your mom may have been the only female in your life till you got married. She would have done all the best she could to add joy to your life. Your dad might have worked day in and day out for you. Agreed!! Do you think your wife wants you to sob all the time? If so, she is not an ideal wife nor a soul mate. Don’t you see that your wife does all that your mom did to your children? Don’t you see, your working wife works day in and day out to earn for your family. You may not appreciate it nor would you like to praise her, but don’t you know how struggling would it be for her to balance work, kids, cooking, and above all your criticism??

It is easy to pass on jokes on Husband and Wife where wives are always pulled down. But do you understand how much it really hurts a woman who does everything for you? Would you mind your mom getting hurt? Is she the only woman who is ideal to you? If you would do everything to please her, then I’m sorry, you may not be always right!! There are wives who are ideal too..

A man should not side anyone just to please them.. Be it mom or wife!! He needs to side justice and talk out and understand who is wrong. If neither understands, it is their tension, not yours! Just because you love one of them, siding them blindly hurts the other!!

Most men, when asked say that “They know their wife understands them and thats why they side moms”. Do you think, this is a good reason you can give after hurting her? Some men immediately after some issues, praise their wife or call them by pet names in front of her. Do you think, we females are dumb not to understand that its mere flattery!!

Instead of pushing her down and applying ointment for her, better not to push her down!! Remember, a wife can stand her in-laws hurting her but definitely cannot stand her husband hurting her!!

Speak out!! Speak out!! Speak out!! This is what every wife would want. Men say its difficult to read a Woman’s mind. But in reality, it is very difficult to read a Man’s mind! Be transparent and be open!!

Love your mom!! That’s absolutely fine. But RESPECT YOUR WIFE AND HER FEELINGS! Do not hurt that woman who sincerely works for you and your family!! Else, you would see the Bakula, gently falling!! No one would like to bear the pain forever!

Above all, I do not support the role of a wife or a mom, but support an IDEAL WOMAN!